How To Know If Therapy Is Right For You – Part 2

People come to therapy at different times, for different reasons. In Part 1 of this series (you can read it here) , we explored three great reasons why someone would seek counseling:

  • Your life has somehow changed recently
  • You can’t quite seem to cope with the change adequately
  • You feel overwhelmed

This week, we’re going to talk about three more ways you can tell if therapy might be the right choice for you:

  • You want to maintain your well-being
  • You want to get to know yourself
  • You think there’s a chance therapy could help

Read on to go a little deeper into each reason:

You want to maintain your well-being

Do you feel safe, content, and balanced?

There’s no wrong way to answer, but this question might give you a peek into where your well-being is today.
Well-being is a state of general contentment with life and the way things are. If you’re able to put the rough days in perspective, and feel connected to people, purpose and community, you’re experiencing well-being!

It might sound strange for us to suggest therapy if you’re already feeling pretty good about things. We want to normalize going to therapy before things get out of balance. While therapy is useful in times of crisis and extra stress, you can absolutely go to therapy without having a major life problem or unbearable distress./

You want to get to know yourself

Have you ever thought about why you do the things you do? Or maybe why you react to certain events or people in confusing ways? We’ve all had the experience of saying something unexpected, and immediately we think, “Whoa – where did that come from?!”

In therapy, your counselor can help you learn about … you! They’re trained to (nonjudgmentally) spot patterns that you might not have noticed before. In some cases, you might even find that things you haven’t thought much about before – such as your family or past events – have a huge impact on your “right now.” As therapist Nedra Tawwab says, “Therapy is a space to learn more about yourself, your relationships, and how your life experiences impact you.”

An important part of any relationship is getting to know someone. It’s a lot easier to be present with another person when you’ve had practice being present and understanding with yourself. Just remember to be as kind and forgiving to yourself as you would be to a new friend.

You think there’s a chance therapy can help

You’re reading these blog posts for a reason!

If you’re reading this, we want you to know it’s never too early or too late to seek counseling.

Many people come to therapy with issues that are difficult to face alone. Maybe you’ve already tried to bring yourself back into alignment. You might even have participated in different therapies in the past (such as talk therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, etc). Sometimes, professionals and their clients just don’t “click” or their specialty isn’t right for what you’re carrying.

Everyone’s situation is unique, because people are unique. Reach out to us to learn more, and see how we can help support you!

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Do only crazy people go to therapy?

This is probably the most common thought about therapy I hear, and unfortunately one of the largest misconceptions. I have a few different thoughts about this, and please excuse my soapbox as this is one of the things I am most passionate about!

The dentist: First, I would like you to think about our society’s perception about our oral healthcare. Most of our insurances will cover two visits to the dentist per year, not intended to fix things that are wrong, but to prevent things from going bad, to keep us healthy. People are aware that if you don’t take care of your teeth, bad things like infections and oral diseases can happen. So to prevent this, everyone is on the same page about getting check-ups, and people don’t look at each other weird for saying they have a dentist appointment. Now, I would like to ask you why it is that our teeth are more important to us than our brains? Just as things going wrong in your mouth can affect other parts of your body’s wellbeing, the brain definitely has an effect on the rest of your body. Literally almost every function in your body is processed through your brain in some way. So again, why is it that we don’t think of taking care of our brain in the same way we take care of our teeth?

Imagine a world (that I’m working on making a reality) in which we think of our mental healthcare in a similar way we think of our oral. Imagine our insurances covering a few check-ups a year, where you can meet with a therapist and just check-in. Are you feeling stuck, or do you feel like you’re living your best life? Do you need to process something that’s been bothering you with someone completely unbiased and non-judgmental? These check-ups could help catch things before they got too bad. Many of us try to cope with stress by avoiding them, by brushing them under the rug or into a closet. That is, until it all comes busting out the seams and you’re forced to deal with it. But, at this point, it’s much more work to come back. What if we thought about preventing mental illness or crises in the same way we prevented cavities? What if, like parents make sure their children brush their teeth, they also made sure to check in with their emotional well-being?

But, don’t only crazy people go to therapy? Well, the short answer is NO! There are many different reasons people seek therapy. Sometimes it’s a diagnosable mental illness, such as Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Anxiety or Schizophrenia. But much more often it’s more common life stressors, such as transitioning different life phases or trouble in relationships. And while we’re on the subject, what is “crazy” anyways? Is it those diagnosable disorders? Again, it is my belief that these are results of a lack of prevention in the first place. So, if we continue to think of our mental healthcare in the same way we currently do, this will only make this thought true. If we keep thinking that only “crazy” people go to therapy, then by the time you are at your wit’s end and turn to therapy, you might be someone that’s made it to a diagnosis.

The moral of the story is that you don’t have to wait until it’s bad. Think of checking in with a therapist every once and a while as a preventative tool to make sure you’re where you want to be. You don’t have to go to weekly sessions if you don’t feel like there is something you need to actively work on. But if there is, that doesn’t make you crazy. In my opinion, it makes you responsible and someone who cares for their health. Because remember, your mental health affects all of your other areas of wellness: social (your relationships), physical (your body is affected too! think about panic attacks), financial, and so on! Once we all start thinking this way, the taboo around mental health will start to fade. I believe this will set us up for more successful and healthy lives!

If you feel like I’ve got it all wrong, or have further thoughts on this topic, feel free to reach out!

Your listening ear,


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